That’s the power of intention to transform. Audacious. Scary as hell. In your face. Personal Growth. Opportunity. Delightful surprises. Dreams coming true.

What’s been wanting to transform in your Life? Is it finding a relationship? Creating excellent health? Becoming a more powerful presence? Enhancing – or ejecting – your career? Improving your sex life? Navigating your spiritual purpose?

What I know for certain is that transformation requires dedicated attention, consistent intention, a willingness to be honest about current circumstances while gently loving ones’ self onward, and daily practice. I find few things more wonderful than being present to the transformation of another – it’s an incredible turn-on to watch someone’s light grow brighter! So it’s no wonder I’ve been busily creating new programs to help guide and facilitate the transformation of women through THREE programs that we’re launching today.

Introducing… the re-launched VIBRANT LIFE MASTER CLASS, my return to one-on-one COACHING, and the brand-spankin’ new VIBRANT BIZ. Whether you want to shift your connection with your mate, your money, your body – there’s a program here that fits the bill. (Click the links to see my smiling face tell you all about it!)

SO – What didja get for mom this Mother’s Day? Or…. Mom, what are you doing for yourself this year? Because I am a mom and I know so many of us put ourselves last I really want to get the word out to moms about these programs. I’m just so excited about this great material and the opportunity contained therein to transform lives! So I’m going to gift THREE Vibrant Life Master Class programs to women who help me spread the word.

Simply tweet:
RT @MaddyV1 Moms who come 1st Transform the World! #VibrantLifeMasterClass http://bit.ly/JcCIwh

I’ll randomly select three lucky winners on Sunday, Mama’s Day, and notify you on Twitter. Any woman can use this for herself or gift to a mom of her choice – it’s up to you. Let the transformation begin! Wheeee!!!

Yup, that’s what I’m up to. And since I always gotta share what’s going on with me – I’m kicking off a few ways for you to transform too. Namely….

• A re-launch of the Vibrant Life Master Class.
• A brand-spanking new Coaching program.
• The opportunity you’ve been waiting for, a chance to work with me! I’m calling it Vibrant Biz.

It’s the #TransformationLaunch people! And it kicks off May 8. Stay tuned for the juice!

I may be a little high at the moment from such wonderful company, delightful weather, and fabulous Austin food trucks. I am also supremely gratified to have selected this day, these people, these conversations as time to emerge from a weeks-long haze of self-indulgent pity-partying in the (mostly) solitude of my inner sanctum. I’m not the only one who’s been doing it. My last post (Looking for Love in All  the Wrong Places) elicited several replies plus personal emails and phone calls. Seems I struck a nerve – it’s been a tough time for lots of folks.

From a place of having just had two quality retrospective conversations, here is my shout out to anyone finding themselves in a similar place:

Honor your time on the couch, under the covers, deep in a dish of fudge-covered cookies and ice cream. Revel deep into this depression. Sink into your sorrowful moans, really cry it out – extra points for drool and snot. You could journal the heck out of it – or instead head straight for apathy-land (usually the comfiest spit in front of your television). Just don’t sweat it. You will not get the full benefit of this experience if you try to push your way through, learn some lesson too quickly, or put on your game face and dive into an unrelated distraction (like overwork).

The truth is that the darkest parts of who you are  - are extremely relevant to you living a full Life. There’s a reason why I refer to Vibrant Life being full-spectrum… every color and nuance is richly informative  and deserves to be a treasured aspect of your Healthy + Beautiful self. Knowing all parts of one’s self intimately – including the ‘not pretty’ recesses, deepens our humanity. Approving of these, allowing them to be witnessed, has a unifying effect on our relationships, improves our ability to partner, parent, and collaborate.

I’ve discovered that the shiniest, brightest, loveliest, most beguiling people in our lives – you might even call them Vibrant Ones – wallow in despairing days. It’s why I dare call myself a Vibrant One, how I know you are one too. ‘Healthy + Beautiful’ isn’t a prescribed state of being that’s earned. It is embracing every aspect of ourselves and creating our lives from this place of multicolored experience. So please, whether in your PJ’s on the floor, or in your sequined party dress dancing on the table, let’s indulge all of it.

What ‘it’ is, on the face of it, is not so critically important. It can be characterized as a miscommunication, a misalignment, an incongruency – or – a natural evolution in relationships which have served important and specific purposes, whose time came, and went. If I were to share details you’d say “That’s all?” However, I feel the truth of it, that nothing will ever be the same. And as I begin to search for new confidence and belief in whatever lies before me, I am grieving what has passed. And I am learning an important lesson in refining my skills and trusting myself.

I am pretty good at creating community. That story is a true one. It is also true, that I have a 40+ year history of depending on the good opinion of others. To an unhealthy degree. I may have become a little less needy over time, stopped looking over my shoulder for nods of approval, but this isn’t quite done (and may never be completely). As an off-the-charts extrovert I decidedly enjoy the limelight. I bask in the affection of others. And I’m fed on words of validation. Fed, but not nourished.

It is time to return to me. Worthiness, self-love, to my inner Beloved.

The awareness of my malnourished soul has come, in these past days, from a desperate awareness of reaching for all things addictive. I have wanted to eat, drink lots of coffee, alcohol, craved bad television in large doses, and made phone calls to people who I know do not support me fully. I’ve been looking for love in all the wrong places.

In a time of transition such as this, it is ok to retreat. So I now choose to retreat into a more warm and loving place. My soul. I’ll return to looking myself in the eye every day and reconnecting with me. To silent meditation. To solitary walks in beautiful nature. To conversations in my journal. And like the caterpillar weaving her cocoon, I will prepare to leave much of what I know, with utter faith that there is beauty in this process yet to be discovered.

This weekend was a ‘full circle moment’  to assist as ten women (re)discovered their hips, sunk into sensual music, awakened to their sacred core, and prepared routines to share with their beloveds. While it’s true that they came away with wardrobe tips, showstopper moves, music recommendations, and insight about how to use eye-contact to great effect – there was ONE THING that came up repeatedly during the morning which, when tuned-into, shifted the sensual presence of every woman in the room. And that, my vibrant valentines, is so simple it’s stunning.

Slow down.

This is challenging, when there is nothing in our culture which rewards slowing down. Without personal investigation, how could we know this for certain? Slowing ourselves is the surest way to tap into our internal turn-on. And it seems the opposite of what’s showcased as sexy. I promise that you can go without black eyeliner, false eyelashes, push-up bras, platform heels, sequins – in fact those things can distract us, undermining confidence by focusing on external validation of sexiness.  (They can be enormously fun too…. once you’ve mastered your internal turn-on to the point of confident maneuvering, so keep those ideas on-hand for later moments).

Sexy is an inside job. Men completely get this by the way. But there’s only one way to prove this to you: Be your own valentine today!

Find no less than 15 minutes alone, preferably in some private space like your bathroom or boudoir (sexier than a bedroom). Music is optional – must be slow music with a barely discernible rhythm for our purposes. Eyes closed, wait to move until you absolutely cannot stand not moving. If you find yourself thinking, ‘am I moving slowly enough?’ disengage your mind for the moment, and move a thousand times more slowly. Allow the music to move you – as though the energy which surrounds you is expressing through you, not initiated by you. You become the nuances, the long phrases, the ‘je ne sais quoi’ that is so deeply personal it can only be universally described as being turned on.

There is absolutely nothing more alluring than a woman who moves in this way!  It is possible for any woman. Every woman. Single women. Married women. Straight and gay women. Mothers of infants and of teenagers. Women in sweatpants. Tiny women and buxom women.

Wishing you the slowest, most sacred, sensual, LOVE-full Valentine’s Day ever.